Healing HERstory https://healingherstory.com/ for Women Who Dare to Heal Sun, 24 Jul 2022 11:44:38 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.3 https://i0.wp.com/healingherstory.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Healing-Herstory-favicon.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Healing HERstory https://healingherstory.com/ 32 32 179438865 6 Ways to Begin to Break Trauma Bonds https://healingherstory.com/trauma/6-ways-to-begin-to-break-trauma-bonds/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=6-ways-to-begin-to-break-trauma-bonds Sun, 24 Jul 2022 10:52:51 +0000 https://healingherstory.com/?p=48066   Most of us who are, or have been, trauma bonded in a relationship (and this doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship) suffered abuse in childhood. Safety in our childhood, meant finding a way to live with the abusive situation. There were few options open to us as children. Therapy helps us to challenge […]

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]]> 48066 Thoughts and Prayers are Not Enough https://healingherstory.com/trauma/thoughts-and-prayers-are-not-enough/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=thoughts-and-prayers-are-not-enough Sun, 27 Feb 2022 15:15:30 +0000 https://healingherstory.com/?p=48023 This is not okay! Another generation of children that will grow up with trauma. Coming out of the pandemic, I cannot imagine the collective and individual toll this is taking. More than ever, let’s practice kindness and be extra gently with people. “Thoughts and prayers” are the standard, response, and by all means send thoughts […]

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]]> 48023 Life Review – Your Roadmap for 2022 https://healingherstory.com/life-and-work/life-review-your-roadmap-for-2022/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=life-review-your-roadmap-for-2022 Sun, 02 Jan 2022 08:53:31 +0000 https://healingherstory.com/?p=47366 I recently shared with a few people that I am in the process of conducting my annual life review. Enough of you have asked that I thought I’d share my process here. Conducting a life review is more than making a few vague resolutions that will be forgotten by the end of January. It’s also […]

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]]> 47366 Vulnerability Was Dangerous https://healingherstory.com/my-journey/vulnerability-was-dangerous/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=vulnerability-was-dangerous Wed, 06 Oct 2021 15:58:36 +0000 https://healingherstory.com/?p=47231 Brené Brown writes that in order to be vulnerable, we need to first find safety, both physical and emotional, and that we need to share our stories with those who have earned the right to hear them. I’ve been sharing my stories for many years with fellow survivors of childhood abuse and sexual violence. These […]

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]]> 47231 Forgiveness is NOT Your Responsibility https://healingherstory.com/trauma/forgiveness-is-not-your-responsibility/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=forgiveness-is-not-your-responsibility Tue, 21 Sep 2021 11:23:20 +0000 https://healingherstory.com/?p=47338 I’ve thought about forgiveness a lot over the years. I was raised Catholic, and the confessional was a big part of my life, especially around the age of twelve, when weekly trips to the darkened cubicle at the back of the church formed a part of my regular routine. This ritual also wove it’s way […]

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]]> 47338 It’s Okay to Ditch the Self Care Today https://healingherstory.com/mental-health/its-okay-to-ditch-the-self-care-today/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=its-okay-to-ditch-the-self-care-today Wed, 14 Jul 2021 07:50:42 +0000 https://healingherstory.com/?p=47265 I’ve spent the last few weeks trying to fold the fitted sheet that is my life. If you’ve ever tried to fold a fitted sheet, you know exactly what I mean. I’ve been thinking about identity and self care. Self care is such an overused phrase right now. Everywhere you look women are talking about […]

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]]> 47265 First Times https://healingherstory.com/my-journey/first-times/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=first-times Tue, 16 Feb 2021 13:06:52 +0000 https://healingherstory.com/?p=726 I sit back on the sofa, sinking in deep, pulling the rug up to my chest. I can hear the rain outside the window. Resting my head against the cushions and closing my eyes, I try to look back through the years… but one of the things about childhood trauma is that it strips you […]

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]]> 726 PTSD and Anxiety in a Masked Society https://healingherstory.com/mental-health/ptsd-and-anxiety-in-a-masked-society/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=ptsd-and-anxiety-in-a-masked-society Thu, 27 Aug 2020 14:36:03 +0000 http://healingherstory.com/?p=441 Yesterday I popped into the store after I dropped my son off at work. Who am I kidding? There’s no “popping in” to the store anymore. Halfway to the door I realised I didn’t have a mask, I turned around and headed back to the car. In the cubbie, I keep a packet of “just […]

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]]> 441 Living With Exhaustion https://healingherstory.com/my-journey/living-with-exhaustion/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=living-with-exhaustion Sun, 23 Aug 2020 12:12:21 +0000 http://healingherstory.com/?p=345 There are days when things are just more difficult. Days when I am bone tired. The kind of tired that is not accounted for by lack of sleep or busyness. It’s the kind of exhaustion you can only really understand if you live with a chronic illness. I take care of myself well, and I […]

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]]> 345 Grief with Grace, Navigating the Unthinkable https://healingherstory.com/interviews/grief-with-grace-navigating-the-unthinkable/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=grief-with-grace-navigating-the-unthinkable Fri, 14 Aug 2020 11:31:18 +0000 http://healingherstory.com/?p=340 Earlier this week I was interviewed by Lori Latimer for her podcast, Grief with Grace. The episode will air in a few weeks and I will share it when it does. Although I was the interviewee, I learned so much from and about Lori. An hour of conversation on Zoom doesn’t seem long enough to […]

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