Trauma support needs to adapt…

working in the trauma space requires fluidity.

When I first began to face and deal with what had happened to me, I was unable to verbally articulate anything. I had lived on paper, by the written word, since I was four years old.

Writing was a much safer option than speaking. With my writing I could plan my words, I could find ways of expression that perfectly conveyed my experience, my torment, my fear, my FEELINGS.

Through the written word I began to understand the language of my pain. I could use metaphor, I could mould the ugly into words of beauty.

But most importantly, I wasn’t left stuttering and stumbling over what to say and how to say it. Writing afforded me the space to change and edit and craft my thoughts, to bring order. It has also allowed me, over the years, to revisit the process of my healing, to see patterns and find blocks, to map my growth.

Because writing has been so powerful for me, I began writing circles for women who are healing from trauma, but I wanted a way to bring the same measured and contemplative process to my 1:1 work.

I introduced Voxer Days as a way to offer 1:1 support, at an affordable price, without the pressure of having to try to process and verbalise everything in an hour long session.

In a nutshell, you get access to me 1:1 for an entire day on and off using Voxer (a free walkie-talkie app that allows us to exchange voice and text messages) and I get to offer support in a unique and hugely impactful way.

Hi, I’m Michelle

I’ve have been building online communities for the last 17 years. I’ve facilitated workshops and mentored women who have gone through trauma for over 20 years.

Having experienced sexual abuse in my childhood as well as a sexual violence at the age of 21, I understand how isolating the journey towards healing can be.

The Voxer Day is offered specifically to open a space where you can:

• Have access to a mentor (me) who understands what it means to struggle with trauma
  
• Talk to someone who knows that sometimes you need time to think through your response to questions and suggestions.
• Dive deeply into the specific areas you’re struggling with for a full day, and engage with the process in your own time.
• Get personal support and feedback.

What it’s not:

• It’s not a single 60-minute session, because that’s not long enough to really get to the heart of what it is you need support with, and it doesn’t give you any accountability to take action.
• It’s not a long term mentoring package, because you’re not in a place to make that commitment right now. You need to feel your way, slowly and cautiously. Safely.
• It’s not a course, because that’s not going to address your specific needs right now.

How Day of Voxer Works

1.  You choose a date.

During a Day of Voxer, we’ll be in touch over Voxer on and off throughout the day to dive deep into whatever issue you’re struggling with.

It’s not necessary to clear the full day for this, I know you’re busy and I know that this work can be overwhelming. A Voxer Day allows for fluidity of conversation, all day long. It’s NOT meant to be an intensive 12 hour session. You get my focused attention allowing us to dive deeply into whatever issue you’re struggling with, is keeping you stuck, or whatever the area it is that you want to move forward on, while allowing for plenty space and time to think, process and respond alongside your daily activities.

If you feel that we have achieved what you set out to before the day is done, there’s absolutely no obligation to keep going until the end of the day. You set the pace. Always.

You should ensure that there is enough time between your day’s activities to listen and reply to messages – as well as the mental space to think, process, take action and journal (if you need to). If the issues we’ll be delving into are particularly emotional, you may want to clear a chunk of time, or make sure that you won’t need to be engaged with anything social or too stressful.

2.  We get you set up on Voxer.

If you don’t have a Voxer account, you’ll create one – it’s free. (I’ll send you all the details)

We’ll add each other on Voxer, and you can send me a message in advance to tell me more about what’s troubling you. This way, we can dive right in when your day starts.

3.  You’ll have access to me from 7am to 7pm UK time

If you’re in a different time zone, there will still be plenty of hours that overlap and we can adjust this slightly.

As I’ve explained, this isn’t meant to be an intensive 12 hour session, which would be exhausting for us both, and you’re not expected or supposed to be sitting by your phone waiting for replies.

Rather, we’ll be exchanging messages steadily throughout the day at a relaxed pace. Sometimes back and forth, sometimes with some gaps for other stuff that might be going on.

The best thing about a Day of Voxer is that there is space in between messages to think, to journal, to process and reflect.

This is part of what makes a Day of Voxer so effective.